Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Pampered Innocence

Having been asked to host an awarding ceremony for an event yesterday, notable realizations filled my thoughts. The occasion was with regard to babies as the stars of the moment. Conceivably, every parent, believe that their baby is a star. Yet, until when…

Since the time sagacity served me right, I’ve reflected on some observations pertaining to parent-child relationship. While admirable are those who have shown unfailing parenting, on the contrary, it’s quite awkward to see parents seemingly harsh on their already-grown child. Whereas babies are so much cared for to the point of pampering them not just with the best ‘baby stuff’ but more than anything else, with invariable attention but they‘re rather dealt with differently once they’re ‘up-and-about’ and naturally manifesting childlike-bothersome behavior.

Reasonable indulgence in investing emotional attachment is acceptable but to apparently push that aside soon after one’s baby is a little older and understandably mischievous is just objectionable. Devoting on such legitimate affection is not an investment to be taken advantage of as a matter of authority but a responsible commitment. Parenting is or should rather be a consistent affair that serves to be ideally emulated. Parents should understand that childhood is not subordination but a character-molding experience. Being an imposing figure should be well balanced for if it’s not as a parent, efficiently apply it as the person-in-charge at work instead.

Whether a boss or a subordinate, an employee could always resign. As a parent or the child though, one must resign to the fact that they’re into this unconditional relationship. Limiting one’s parenting capacity within a partial and just through the initial stages could strain such bond. Nonetheless, overdoing it could as well put the relation asunder. Thus, let a child be…

Grant children the freedom to live their childhood as it should be with proper guidance but not controlling. Soon, they’ll have the capacity to think and fend for themselves as they opt for. Are you expressing yourself through them (i.e., letting them wear something just because it may look cool FOR YOU; forcing them to engage in something YOU ARE INTERESTED IN; dictating what YOU THINK will be beneficial in the future, but then, for WHOM…)? What if what you’re making your child go through isn’t the choice he/she is keen on pursuing? Early on, let them express themselves as they deem fit in accordance with their age through supervision with that of your maturity.

Being a parent, your maturity develops in bringing out the child in you… This way, you’re making your children find their own way in life, be their own person and discover options best for them.

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