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Stop The Hate

And spread the love...

I could have used “Spread The Love” for a title and the “stop the hate” for an onset instead... However, nowadays, a more intriguing issue leaning on negativity stirs a more engaging traction; when subject is abject. “Vilify and it goes viral; praise and it (apparently) goes to waste...” Also, I could have just merged the two as it should be; given that when you stop the hate, it should correspond with spreading the love.



But then, what’s rampant along today’s society is how people would rather pay attention to other people’s “negative attributes” to conjure up prodding against those being maligned instead of focusing on (their) fine qualities that merit compliments.

For some, they forego of the possibility of being labeled as “humble brags” which similarly get misinterpreted (probably out of envy) and turn into critical imputations from others. Thus, they turn into the opposite as critics instead and express something else against anyone/thing from which it advocates disdain.

As I’ve cited many times over, “It’s easier to succumb than to resist” as a prompt that supplements “It’s more difficult to solely stand your ground being principled yet belittled than to stoop down to a level so low and just go with the flow” regardless of incriminating issues... Consequently, we generally go for what’s more popular but not necessarily right; yet it also may not be faulty altogether...

The point however is that we’re too concerned of likeminded people’s confirmation as well as conformance, sometimes (if not often) to a fault and at the expense of someone else. Is it easier to hate than to love? Or isn’t it that it feels lighter and more fulfilling to show forbearance towards adversaries and trials instead of subjecting yourself to stress over gaining a “hateful advantage” over others? Apparently, egos make it extra difficult to swallow pride and (naturally) easier to dislike something you don’t like (no wonder Facebook doesn’t have a “Dislike” button lol). It’s social media, not a medium for anti-social...

There are also those who spread hate by defaming others through a trending topic, either against an already famous personality or just someone you’d help “achieve” fame through infamy... What’s kinda provocative is the fact that even (say for example) when popular sports’ championship games’ results get trolled against the runner-up instead of just celebrating their cheered-for team’s victory. We are by nature “mapangkantiyaw/mga alaskador” (teasers, wherein “BI” could stand for “Banter Injector” which, most likely ends up as “Bad Influence” indeed as it influences other fans to spread such “offensive foul”). We find gratification in adding insult to injury. Similarly, annoyance further gets piqued with an in-your-face manifestation of “success” (or a “living the life” post) as some means to sarcastically validate how it’s a better standing/life one has compared to that of the targeted and affected party. “Envy is heavy” and we add up to the weight... While, to each his own, let us be a bit sensitive and considerate... or are we likewise envious?

Are we like this? Do we spread hate? Don’t “react” if you’re not/if you do not... as one reason we are most likely like it or at least have done so or probably did it once or twice is because of our innate reactive temperament as opposed to a proactive capacity. And because as above-mentioned, it’s “naturally” easier... even though we have the righteousness within us to actually see the good in others as well as the offsetting purpose behind it. We just seem to refuse because then again, being overly opinionated weighs heavier to be highlighted over a witting unwitting silence. It’s a burden that ticks one off and gets triggered to blow off. Inherently bursting or intentionally blurting it out to release such heavy weight although it’ll feel lighter to just let go is as ironic as “wanting to make a difference”, however, escalating differences.



Nonetheless, there are those shared posts, however detestable, which may actually be helpful to share. It’s for awareness. Responsibility though is imperative to avoid spreading unverified reports considering the proliferation of these sort of articles for whatever hidden agenda’s worth. At any rate, for all its sensitivity that affects quite a lot, it likewise induces hate either way.

Others capitalize on such “free” publicity as no matter how bad it is, it’s still publicity. It’s what stirs the general public’s interest, a gullibility that’s taken advantage of... Bashers, attention-seekers, fame whores, fake-newscasters and the like never admit that they’re in it for that purpose of living up to their “(in)famous” designations but “a matter of opinion” or “freedom of expression” and yet will bask in the virality of their notoriety.

Then again, these are what incite us. We thrive in excitement over these “hateful” intrigues and substantiations. Stories of love in kind words and similar posts seem to bore us. We forgo of assumed sanctimonious and self-serving subjects such as this article. We assume it to be guilt-tripping instead of perceiving it as an eye-opener. “Hate” gets the better of us.

Furthermore, there’s no sign that it (or they) will slow down, more so stop anytime soon as there’s a susceptible market in us. We are as tolerant in allowing this to happen... We are as guilty in spreading hate...

Nevertheless, we are as powerful to stop it. Instead, spread love.

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